Like my parents did for me, I want my kids to grow up with kindness in their hearts. The holiday season is the perfect time for those lessons. For example, the idea that not everyone is as fortunate. Or gets to spend time with their families this time of year. And, most importantly, to be thankful for what you do have.

The holiday season is also a time when our family gives generously to those most in need. While that’s a behavior I want to instill in my kids, I also want to teach them the importance of being smart when they give.

We all know there are bad actors out there. People, causes, and organizations that seem legitimate exist only to take your money and use it for...well, not what you thought you were giving to. As a parent (and likely source of that end-of-year donation), you too should be educated on how to give intelligently.

And, as it turns out, this process of learning can happen side-by-side with your kids.

Learn to deal with “Stranger Danger”

If you or your child is asked to make a donation, don’t immediately assume bad intent. In fact, the vast majority of nonprofits are good. But, you can still ask questions, like, “Who is this person or group?,” “Where are they located? Are they a name I recognize?,” and “If I give, what cause am I supporting?” Just like dealing with other people, use your instincts. Look for signs of hesitation or untruth. Honest people can usually answer these questions easily.

Do some fun research together:

If you want to give, but don’t know where to start, check out websites like Charity Navigator or Guidestar. They rate and compile lots of information on nonprofits. You can find groups in your area and find ones that support the causes you care about. You should also check your state’s website to make sure the nonprofit is compliant with state fundraising laws.

Once you’ve found a nonprofit you want to give to, visit their website with your child (at your discretion, of course). Check out their pictures and descriptions of who they help. Read their mission. You might even give them a call. It’s a fun way to tell them how much you appreciate their work in the community, while having a chance to make sure they are who they say they are.

Go out and support a local cause:

As a kid, I went to church and was a Cub Scout. I volunteered at the local food bank. Finding a local organization and doing these acts of kindness with your kids can make a big difference. It’s a way to connect with those most in need and foster personal growth and empathy. Plus, you’re literally helping your community with your heart, hands, and time. During the holiday season, this human connection can mean the most.

You’ve heard it and probably said that, “It’s better to give than to receive.” This holiday season, you and your kids can give meaningfully and intelligently. And it will make a world of difference.