As a concerned parent, you’re always on the run to ensure your child’s happiness through good parenting skills. But the good news is: they’re the small and little things that actually matter and make a difference!
So what all encompasses itself as a positive parenting? Well, believe us, it is all in the small gestures - the way you talk with your kid, how you behave when your kids are around and the likes - all these little but not negligible day-to-day activities leave a great impact on your child. Without further beating around the bush, let’s discuss the positive parenting tips in detail that will take your child a long way in thriving well in every aspect of life.
1) What you do matters
Besides possessing your gene, a child has the basic characteristic of mirroring others; particularly, parents. A child learns by observing and absorbing; and the parents are the first, closest and immediate objects of observation. That is the reason that a girl child imitates her mother and loves her Barbie doll so much. She makes her doll dress, eat and sleep on her lap.
Similarly, we all have seen how a boy child observes and imitates what his father is doing, and at times, ends up copying undesirable things such as smoking and so on. Hence, what you do influences your child in a lot many ways than you could even imagine. It is thus highly recommended to be a role model to your child and avoid doing all those activities which you won’t like your kid to imitate, especially when they are in their growing age and hence, cannot make out the difference between right and wrong.
2) Be involved in your child’s life
The chief aspect of your child’s life is learning. As a parent, you are the first teacher of your child. They learn from you. Your child feels motivated and inspired if they find you involved in their daily activities from their fundamental requirements such as speaking, eating, playing to responding to social stimuli, studying at school, career choosing and socializing. Be your child’s friend, philosopher, and guide. Your involvement in various aspects of learning will make your child feel that you are near them.
3) Adapt your parentage to fit your child
So, you want him to join singing classes but what he is interested in is swimming? Well, this happens more than often!
As a parent, you already are familiar with every trait, ability, interest, strength, weakness, positivity and negativity of your child. Thus, take a cue from your kid’s natural traits and don’t expect them to be like you just because you want them to be. Instead, adapt yourself to your child’s expectations. For instance, if your child is enthusiastic about swimming, Instead of forcing them to sing, inspire them to swim by buying them swimming gears. After all, their safety is your responsibility. Make that your sure parentage is not falling short anywhere just because your kid is not getting involved in something that you wanted to. Supposedly, your boy wants to play football. Even if you don’t want him to play, it is still your duty to encourage him to use mouth guard while playing in order to avoid any mouth or face related injury. It is highly recommended to teach certain survival tricks to your child in order to fight the odds. Your involvement in their liking would not only encourage them but also boost their morale and bring them closer to you. What else a parent could expect?
4) Establish a set of rules
No T.V after 9 pm, a glass of milk before going with friends in evening and a few others. Establish a set of rules that your child should be made to adhere to right from an early age. These rules may encompass a number of activities that come in the day to day activities of your child, such as, the scheduled timings for leaving the bed, taking breakfast, lunch, and supper, playing, going to school, watching TVs and playing video games. Learning etiquette and ways of socializing and behaving with others need to be made a part of the set rules. Establish house rules which should indicate the principles governing the home. You can also make your kid understand the value of self-discipline this way if all the family members adhere to their own rules.
5) Treat your child with respect
You just slapped your son in front of his friends because he told lie? Or, you scolded your little girl among all students because she didn’t score well? Stop doing this!
Every child has their own self-esteem and is sensitive to external stimuli. Any sort of abusive or derogatory words will lead your child to frustration, depression, and alienation from you. When you treat your child with due respect, they respond more positively to what you say or teach. Therefore, never hit or use derogatory words to your child. Learning harsh treatment from you, your child will try to handle any conflicting situation with aggression and meanness. When you feel angry, instead of reacting, just walk away and then come back and make a plan for discipline. With perfect coolness and poise, explain to your child, he should not have behaved in the manner that made you angry.
6) Let them be
Never force your children to become a doctor when they want to be an engineer and vice versa! Allow your child to become what they want or long to become. Avoid molding them on the basis of your understanding of life. Enforcing something to be someone, who it does not like to be, will lead your child to react negatively. You should show him different options for ‘becoming’ along with their pros and cons but leave the choice to your child. They will then be more motivated and will excel in their field of preference.
7) Make it a time to learn, not to teach
When your child comes to you, learn to behave like a child. The best things you should do are those which you have forgotten such as laughing, playing, singing, hiding or even crawling under the sofa. Such acts of yours will enliven you and it will make your child see you within itself. At the same time, it will perceive an adult within itself and will behave in a more matured and responsible manner. This not only strengthens your bonding but also inspires your kid.
8) You cannot be too loving
Not scolding your kid when they eat too many chocolates or see TV in excess is not love, but you’re simply playing with their future. Your child needs your support, empathy, touch, and closeness. Therefore, you need to be a loving parent towards your child. But don’t show too much love which may weaken them. Don’t make them drown in your parental love. Let them fall and learn from its mistakes. Don’t forbid them to do things, you think may hurt them. Try to be more of a friend than a parent.
Wrapping Up
Bottom line here is to behave more like a friend and lesser like a parent. You should avoid acting too much obsessive for them and let them experience this world the way they want to be. However, if anything goes wrong, be available to them instantly.
How do you manage to make your child excel? What kind of parenting rules do you stick to, if there are any? Write to us in the comments!
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