The attitude of children to parents, as a rule, is created by the parents themselves, although not always consciously. The most important factor here is the family in which the child lives and is brought up.
Parents are always meaningful people for children, but the love of children for parents is not born and guaranteed. Being born, the children of their parents do not like. Being born, children love their parents no more than you like to eat apples. Your love for apples is manifested in the fact that you eat them with pleasure. The love of children for parents is manifested in the fact that they are happy to use their parents. Children will love you - but will later, when you teach them this. In order for children to learn their parents more quickly, they simply need to be taught it. Everything begins - with the parents, since that time and the forces that they are ready to allocate to their children. With the qualifications that they, as parents, have; from the lifestyle that they lead - and from the patterns of relationships that they show their lives to their children. If it's natural for you to love and care for someone, if it gives you sincere joy for yourself - you are already giving your children a wonderful example ...
Relations between fathers and sons, even in good families, change with age. It's quite common for a son to have a relationship with his father: 4 years: my father knows everything! 6 years: my father does not know everything. 8 years: at the time of my father everything was different. 14 years old: my father is so old. 21 year: my old man does not chop anything! 25 years old: my father does some things, but this is a common thing at his age. 30 years: I think it's worth asking your father for advice. 35 years: I should not have done anything without asking my father for advice. 50 years: what would my father do? 60 years: my father was such a wise man, and I did not appreciate it. If he was around now, I would have learned so much from him.
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