When you get out of a relationship, it is crucial that you do not fall into a rebound relationship. When you are in a rebound relationship it is not fair to either person. On the one hand, you have a person who could be head over heals into you but you are not genuinely into that person. It is not fair to you because you still need to recover from a broken heart. After a break up, regardless of who breaks up with who, you will need some time alone. Many people who are in a relationship for long periods of time may have lost themselves in the relationship. Therefore, during a separation, this is a great time to build yourself up again and find out who you are. By taking time out for yourself, you will return to your favorite pastimes and possibly find new love interests after a while.
Emotional Status of Rebounders
When you get out of a relationship, do not automatically start looking for a new relationship without healing first. Rebound relationships are normally formed because the person does not want to be alone. Everyone is lonely from time to time and there is nothing wrong with that. Reconnect with friends and family when you feel lonely. Do not fall into another relationship to fill up that lonely gap. Sometimes, you are full of other emotions. Anger, sadness and depression can also come as a result of a break up. You may not be emotionally ready to get into a new relationship although you may want to fix yourself by stop wasting time and finding someone new.
Role Playing With Rebound Partners
However, you will quickly discover that by finding someone new, you may hurtfully and unrightfully judge your new partner based on previous relationship problems that this new person has nothing to do with. You may even role play subconsciously and try to treat this person how you would have treated your previous partner. When you are going out with someone new, it is a whole new different relationship that should be full of hope and progress. If you do not feel this way, then you are not ready to date. And until you are, you are probably rebound dating.
Do not try to find someone right away. Take your time to emotionally heal from your previous relationship. You will discover a lot about yourself, for better or worse. You will be able to grow as a person and show someone new that you are a catch.
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