My mom and I had a talk this weekend like…we always do. We talked about self-esteem, beauty products, the world’s standard of beauty, hair and all of its complexities. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but if you don’t believe it, no one else’s opinion will ever really matter to you. There is no one product that will do the job. There is no one outfit that will change the world’s standards. You truly have to find the things about YOU that you believe are beautiful and work with those things. There is something beautiful about everyone.

We now live in a world where plastic surgery is available on payment plans and social media glorifies artificial lifestyles. While there is nothing wrong with nipping and tucking what you have attempted to tweak but still want to improve, plastic surgery will not change the way that you feel about yourself or how you want the world to treat you. Attention and respect from people based solely on what a person looks like doesn’t last forever. If there is no true talent or gift behind what everyone is flocking to, the fad will eventually fade. This is why it’s so important to find YOUR beauty and worth for yourself, and not what someone else flaunts as their beauty. Ladies, we must do a better job of telling our daughters and our son’s that they are gorgeous before they seek the gratification of the world. If your television shows don’t show a beauty that you can relate to and it makes you question your own beauty…..turn that mess off and find a new program.

I use to hate my hair because it was so thick and big. I use to hate my bottom lip. I use to hate my height because I’m only 5’1. I use to hate being so hairy because of the jokes and taunts that I received as a kid. I use to hate my eyebrows because I have a naturally pointed arch. My mom spoke beauty and worth to me, but I was still struggling with loving those other things about me. Somewhere in me eventually, I realized that all of the things that I disliked about myself were traits of my family. I learned to accept them and make them the way that I wanted them to be. I’ve embraced my big hair, shave or wax often, and I cut the tip off of my brows. Often, I do a lot of manipulation with my strong family traits. It’s worth it for my happiness.

Find what you love about you and embrace it with love. No one is perfect or has it completely together. Don’t allow the media or the world to define your beauty. Love your traits and features because they are inherited from people that love you the most. Love yourself and improve what you can daily. That may mean eating healthier, exercising more, sleeping more, resting more, laughing more, praying more, reading more, or simply taking better care of yourself. Find your beauty!