Our ego has its own needs. It needs to be stimulated, comfortable and safe and above all, it needs to be appreciated. If it does not feel enough appreciated in a job or in a relationship, it will soon start looking for a new job or a new relationship where it thinks it will find more appreciation.

We have the power to give our ego this much sought after appreciation although which, more than often we expect this to come from others.

We often fail to appreciate our own ego, predominantly because we are made to believe that our egos are a part of our lower nature which needs to be subdued and overcome. Similarly, we fail to appreciate others as a result of our under nourished ego.

The difference between big ego and strong ego

People who have a big ego are diametrically people with a strong ego. Individuals with bigger ego fall harder than individuals with stronger ego, who take the fall much better. People with strong ego have better resilience, balance and personal power and they are quick to rebound.

They are self-confident, flexible, emotionally stable and adaptive and are able to cope with the frustrations and stresses of daily life far more easily. On the other hand, people whose ego is big and not strong is quite vulnerable.

Since their esteem is not firmly anchored from within, their ego is compared to that of a big balloon which can be deflated at the slightest prick. Therefore, it can be concluded that bigger the ego, the weaker it is. They do not confidently believe in themselves. They are unable to reveal an innate openness which makes it difficult for them to combat emotional differences on a frequent basis.

A strong ego is indistinguishable from that of a healthy ego. Learning to feel good from inside and appreciate oneself as well as others is the ideal recipe for healthy interpersonal relationships.

Reasons why you should appreciate others selflessly

Appreciation is the demonstration of a positive attitude. It is the act of giving someone or something an affirmative response against the value they add. Appreciation builds relationships, strengthens bonds, helps to connect emotionally and instills respect and trust.

An intended appreciation without ego lets go of a lot of negativity and simplifies life. Here are a few reasons so as to why you should appreciate others without ego.

1. It makes people happy

Appreciation is a way of exchanging happiness and compassion. In this act of giving and taking, both parties derive happiness and generosity.

2. It makes you approachable

When you appreciate someone, it makes it easier for them to appreciate in return. People generally withhold recognition when they do not feel recognized. It is a wonderful way of breaking the ice and letting conversations flow.

3. It makes people valued

Everyone wants to feel indispensable and valued. Numerous individuals suffer from low self esteem and appreciation gives them confidence and makes them feel wanted in the social circle. Being appreciated makes them feel special and treasured.

4. It motivates people

When someone receives an appreciation for the good deed they have done, they immediately feel inclined to outshine the past deeds to achieve something higher, better. Appreciation keeps people going.

5. It promotes healthy competition

Appreciation promotes others to give their best to accrue accolades. It promotes a healthy competitive environment and the glory of one’s person encourages others also to give their best at what they do.

How to appreciate someone

Man is a social animal and no matter how much we would like to dwell within ourselves, selflessness is a virtue which all of us should possess. Appreciating someone takes just a little bit of additional effort, sometimes no effort at all.

It is simply the mindset which needs to be changed and the ego which needs to become a stronger one instead of a bigger one. Here we show you how to appreciate someone, keeping ego at bay.

1. Write a note

This is one of the best ways to show appreciation. Expressing one’s feelings on a small piece of paper can bring joys galore to the appreciation giver as well as the taker. This way any kinds of apprehension and awkwardness can also be avoided.

2. Present something handmade

A lot of thoughts go into making something out of one’s own hand and presenting something handmade, starting from a bracelet to a meal, no matter how simple it is, talks volumes about how much you appreciate someone.

3. Give verbal compliments

Genuine compliments amidst numerous people are a great way to make someone’s day. As long as they come directly from the heart, a warm feeling of gratitude rises in the receiver’s mind and this leads to building stronger relationships.

4. Demonstrating signs of affection

A simple hug, a shoulder squeeze, a warm smile or even a pat on the back are great ways to demonstrate signs of affection. Such gestures are great confidence boosters.

5. Do something thoughtful

Appreciating someone can also be in the form of returning a favour or maybe doing something small for them such as running their errands or picking up some of their responsibilities for a day. This is an excellent way to appreciate friends and family members.

6. Give appreciations instantly

An instant appreciation has more positive reaches than a delayed one as the effect fizzles out if it is delayed. Instant appreciations sound more warm and genuine than the ones reserved to be given later.

It is imperative to let people know we care. Appreciating someone not only demonstrates their glory, it also glorifies our demeanor and personality. Individuals who belt out warm compliments are known to be more popular and often stronger in building personal and professional bonds.

They are less complex people who have sound emotional intelligence and are often more successful in their career. They share excellent rapport with their peers, have good networking skills and are consequently more informative. They are likely to climb the success ladder faster than the rest.