This article is parents of teenagers who find that they never get contacted by their school's teacher, and everything seems to be going well until report cards are available. As a foreign teacher and a teacher in the U.S., I've learned that although we are all from different cultures, children will be children (all over the world.)
So, if you do not get so much of a peep out of your school or administrators throughout the school year, this might be why.
Although you are completing those emergency contact forms, or you've completed them a million times in the past, your children might not be bringing the completed forms back to the school. During their teenage years, kids figure out that it's not so cool for their parents to get reports from their teachers, so they try to block the communication. If your phone number has changed or if you have changed school districts, there is an even bigger chance that the correct contact information is not making it to the school.
This one might be hard to believe, but sometimes teens, themselves, provide the incorrect information on the parent contact cards. They write in a fake phone number or even their own cell phone number. So, when the school tries to reach out, they have bogus information or the kid is answering the phone.
Your child's teachers might have a website to share information about upcoming lessons. They might try to call to inform you that the child has missed classes (individual classes). Yes. They will try to call to inform you of any behavior problems. If they've been trying to get some documentation signed by you and the child isn't returning it, the teachers will try to call or text you.
Here's what you can do to facilitate communication. You should do the communicating. Don't rely on your child. First, you will need to get the names of all of your child's teachers. Call the school for this information. Even if your children brings back something with their teachers' contact information, you should still get names and contact information for al l of your child's teachers. Sometimes kids will bring some of the information from school home, but not all of it.
Ask the school secretary to distribute your cell number and e-mail to each and every teacher. Then, you contact the teachers, yourself. Sending an e-mail of introduction is probably the easiest way to reach all of the teachers. Be sure that you tell each teacher your child's name, and it's very helpful to tell the teacher in which period he or she teaches your child.
It's even better to meet all of your child's teachers in person. That's really one of the best things that you can do, If you can meet all of the teachers face to face, be sure to give the teachers your cell number and e-mail address. Ask the teachers early on if they have a website to announce homework and projects before they are due.
Find out if there will be weekly tests or quizzes. You probably will be able to see grades for all of your child's classes online. Definitely, ask about that! Once you have teachers' contact information, and they have yours, all parties involved will have a better idea of how to help our children learn.
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