My husband adores our children, and so do I. But he feels like I am the more fun, caring parent from the two of us. I think he feels a tiny bit competitive and sad, when he feel like the kids like him more. I know it might be silly and gender norms should not matter, but he is still struggling with me spending most of the time with our kids, and him leaving to work every day. I am a freelance artist and photographer. Our children help me sometimes with painting projects, and I takes photos of them, and they love it. I cut the crust from their bread, reads stories to them and try to be a relentless and loving parent who is always there. Whereas he is the daddy, who comes home cranky and tired and never has time to play.

I know we made this decision together, but we still have a hard time accepting, that he is the one spending less time with our kids. He is thinking of changing his job, but he is the one supporting the whole family, and we cannot afford to cut back his hours or have him unemployed. Do you have any ideas or experiences about how to deal with this?