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Stop Waiting for The Perfect Moment

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It seems like I spend all my time waiting… for the perfect moment. I waited for the kids to get older, to get a new couch, for my hair to grow out, to lose weight, for life to get perfect before I celebrate and do things that are important to ME. The thing is, life is never going to be perfect. There is never going to be a perfect moment, and sometimes, time stops. I learned that lesson this year when my step-Mama, Debbie, died unexpectedly in her sleep. While I was with my Dad helping him deal with her passing, I noticed a lot of beautiful things that she had, waiting for the perfect time to be used. So much wasted…..

I decided this year not wait for life to be perfect, but to embrace life RIGHT NOW. The holidays are coming up and usually I am rushing about making things perfect for everyone, but this year, I m dialing things down to what is really important to us. For instance, I used t put up 3 Christmas trees, a Christmas Village, and tons of decorations. I was so busy running around making things perfect for everyone else that I was miserable. This year, I decided that I was going to slow down. We’re going to have one tree, and no village, but we will have the Nutcracker collection and mistletoe. I want to show my kids that while the holidays ARE special, they should be special for all of us.

I'm going to do some things that are just for me. I'm going to be what some would call selfish, but I say is teaching one of the best lessons. I'm going to do something that will make me happy, and teach my kids some lessons.

There’s this thing that I have been wanting to do for a long time. I’ve been promising myself for years that I was going to wear a super special dress for a holiday party. I had an idea of what I’d like to wear but there was always something I was waiting for- but I’m not waiting this year. I have no idea of where the part is going to be, but I’m going to be here, and I’ll be wearing this dress from PromGirl.



This dress is nothing like the dresses that I normally wear. I'd wear a serviceable LBD that 'd fancy up with a pair of earrings or a nice necklace, while everyone else was decked out. Not this time! I love everything about this dress- the color, the lace, the sequins. I love that it comes in my size- you’d be surprised how many times I have done to look for a fun dress to wear somewhere and all I could find as old lady dresses. News flash- just because people wear plus size doesn’t mean they have to dress like old people. I’m 47 and I’m all about this dress. Its fun, its fancy, and it reminds me that life if GOOD.

In fact, if I don’t find a place to wear this dress, I just might have a party myself. In my non-Pinterest perfect decorated house. I’ll make it a potluck, ask people to bring a favorite appetizer and drink. and dress up. I want my kids to know that parents need playdates, too, and we still love to play dress up!


Many of us are waiting for the perfect moment, when what we need to embrace is making our OWN perfect moments!

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